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Trinity United Presbyterian Church hosts memorial services for church members as well as residents of Modesto and the surrounding communities. Every service emphasizes our belief in eternal life. It is our hope that these services bless family and friends as we honor the memory of their loved one while giving glory to God for the gift of life.


We would be honored to assist you in planning a service for your loved one. Please direct your questions or inquiries regarding a service and available calendar dates to the church office by calling (209) 529-3228. 


Steps to Take for a Memorial Service Prior to the Service


First of all, please accept our condolences. We are very sorry for your loss. Prior to the memorial service, you will meet with the pastor to develop the service. You may invite family members or a few other people who are close to you to this meeting. At that time you will normally share remembrances of the person to help the pastor in developing the eulogy. You will also discuss the order of service and choose hymns, music and other elements that are appropriate to your situation.


If you wish to have music, it is important to arrange for a vocalist and an instrumentalist as soon as possible. Please let the pastor know right away if you would like the church to provide these services.


Often a family will put together a memory board of pictures or other personal items that is placed in the reception area on the day of the service. Most office supply stores carry poster board. Please let the pastor’s office know if you will require an easel to display your photo collage.


You may wish to purchase a guest book for people to sign as they enter. On the day of the service, the ushers will make sure the guests sign the book.


On the Day of the Service


Unless instructed otherwise by the pastor, it is customary for the family to arrive 30-45 minutes preceding the service to set up the memory board or pictures and set out your personal guest book.


You and your family will be led into the Pastor’s office or study about 20 minutes before the service. The pastor will enter the service with you and direct you to the reserved seating in front.


After the Service


The pastor will lead you and your family out at the end of the service. You may greet people or, if that is not comfortable for you, you may return to the pastor’s office or study until you are ready to meet others. At the end of the time together, you may take the flowers and the memory board. Please be sure to leave the church’s easel or stand.


In the Days that Follow


Stay in touch with the church. When the visitors have left and life returns to normal -- for everyone else -- it is always a difficult adjustment. Give your pastor a call and come to worship, even if you find yourself crying at the services. Remember this is one of the reasons the church exists. The Bible says, "Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Consider joining a support group. There are several options here at Trinity United. Call the church receptionist at (209) 529-3228 for more information. It might be just right for you. If you notice a significant change in your weight or your sleeping patterns, contact your doctor.  Remember that the first year after the loss of a loved one is often especially painful. Do not be surprised if holidays and other occasions hurt you long after you thought your grief was over. It is entirely normal.


Frequently Asked Questions


Can I have the casket at the church?

 Usually, no. Our service emphasizes the fact that we believe in life eternal. Many people have had a viewing at their funeral home prior to the service, but in our worship service we believe the body is not the point. As the angel said to the women who were searching for Jesus’ body in the tomb, "He is not here. He has risen!”


What is appropriate to pay?

Trinity United will provide, pastor, organist, worship bulletins and arrange for service ushers at no charge. Our Deacon's will work with the families to provide a reception.  A donation to the Deacon fund would be appreciated.


Members and friends of Trinity United customarily ask that gifts of remembrance be made to the church in memory of their loved one. We will include this suggestion on the back of the memorial service bulletin in addition to other suggested remembrances you may wish to have us include.



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